tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-69818594182260934742024-03-12T20:52:27.862-04:00Bionic Grin39, Single with Braces. What Was I Thinking?Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.comBlogger187125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-34627395895015451542012-07-31T22:49:00.000-04:002012-07-31T22:49:09.869-04:00Liberation DayI'm still in shock.<br />
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The braces came off TODAY.<br />
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My ortho had said that he would take molds today for retainers and that they would do so with the brackets on and it would take 2 weeks to get the retainers. But before I knew it, he was snapping off brackets and wires and molar bands, O rings and power chains. Metal and dried glue went flying everywhere. Molds were taken for my new invisalign retainers which I'll get tomorrow. Today's gifts include a whole 24 hours of true liberation.<br />
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I swear, it still has not hit me.<br />
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Looking at myself in the mirror I see someone who looks so different, so young. Happy! And yet, all I can think of is the gratitude I want to express to all of you who have been with me for the last three years every step of the way. I want to thank you all for reading, for your letters, your words, your encouragement, your hearts, your shoulders, the lovely meals you've made me, the adventures you've had with me. I want to thank a very special dachshund who offered his most human empathy in my darkest moment.<br />
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I've been listening to <a href="http://gotye.com/">Gotye's</a> "Save Me" which really expresses what I've been feeling for all of you: <br />
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<i>You gave me love, when I could not love myself. </i><br />
<i>And you made me turn, from the way I saw myself. </i><br />
<i>And you're patient, love, and you help me help myself. </i><br />
<i>And you save me, and you save me, and you save me."</i><br />
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Beautiful song. Skip to :32 which is when the words start:<br />
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I love you all. Really, really.<br />
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<br />Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-82219721150097876202012-07-30T20:56:00.001-04:002012-07-30T20:56:26.076-04:00Olympic Grillin'<br />
I think the Universe is laughing at me.<br />
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No one loves watching the Olympics more than I do. My own brother called me the Thursday before the opening ceremonies to talk to me because he knew I would be "unavailable for the next 2 weeks." That made me smile. I wear this as a point of pride.<br />
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I love it all--track and field, diving, gymnastics, swimming. Especially the swimming. I used to be a swimmer and was even invited to swim with the <a href="http://www.usms.org/">Masters</a> once upon a time, so I watch this event with special relish.<br />
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Now, Ryan Lochte is awfully pretty to look at. And he has the gold to back it up. But not only around his neck--ON HIS TEETH. Have you seen this??<br />
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He's got a red, white and blue grill! And they look like braces!! <br />
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Seriously? This is the hottest thing around? If only I had made my braces red, white and blue with diamonds, it would have been a whole new paradigm. Then again, if I was biting on a gold medal, it really would have been a parallel universe. <br />
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I'm sprinting towards my own finish line right now with this process, and my smile won't need diamonds--it will be big enough on its own! Stay tuned for more info on that this week!Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-32615633519023306132012-07-14T09:32:00.000-04:002012-07-14T09:32:53.907-04:00Pearls of WisdomMy friend Karin recently posted this on Facebook:<br />
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<i>"The world, Govinda, is not imperfect or slowly evolving along a long path to perfection. No, it is perfect at every moment; every sin already carries grace within it, all small children are potential old men, all sucklings have death within them, all dying people—eternal life... Therefore, it seems to me that everything that exists is good—death as well as life, sin as well as holiness, wisdom as well as folly. Everything is necessary, everything needs only my agreement, my assent, my loving understanding; then all is well with me and nothing can harm me."</i> --Hermann Hesse<br />
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The last 10 days were spent blissfully on Cape Cod, beaching, eating and enjoying friends. It was a simple, small town vacation that was so perfect. My friend Alicia even found a tiny pearl in an oyster that she ate.<br />
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I've been thinking about pearls ever since she found it, and how they're formed. A foreign substance, perhaps some stray grains of sand, gets between the mantle and the shell, which irritates the mantle. The oyster protects itself by layering on nacre, that beautiful pearly substance. I love the message here: It's only by being uncomfortable that an oyster can create it's truest beauty. It's only by being rubbed the wrong way, that the best of you can be brought out.<br />
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I have had a foreign substance in my own mantle for almost three years. It has most certainly rubbed me the wrong way (to the point of causing contusions, many times.) Could it be, that I have been layering on nacre for the last three years? Perfect, as Hermann Hesse says, in every moment? I am now able to give my loving understanding to both the sin and the grace within this process. Could it be that I have become what my father used to call me: his "pearl of a girl"?<br />
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The sun is setting on this process and rising on something new. The clouds are breaking and the light is perfectly arrayed.<br />
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Went to the ortho on Tuesday. He said that he just needs one small space to close up, and next month, he will create the mold for my retainer. This, my dears, means that the braces will COME OFF IN 6 WEEKS if all goes according to plan.<br />
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I still don't think it's hit me. I have very consciously been willing this process to be over in July. I've told everyone I meet quite definitively that it will end in July. Now that July seems to be coming to fruition, I am pleased, delighted, confused, and curious. I like feeling all of these things.<br />
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I came across this passage in <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Eat-Pray-Love-Everything-Indonesia/dp/0143038419/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1339556667&sr=8-1">Eat Pray Love</a>, this passage helped me through a painful breakup three years ago, and now, somehow, it's so appropriate now too:<br />
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<i>Instructions for Freedom:</i><br />
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<i>Life's metaphors are God's instructions</i><br />
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<i>The day is ending. It is time for something that was beautiful to turn into something else that is beautiful. Now let go.</i><br />
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<i>With all your heart, ask for grace, and let go. </i><br />
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<i>With all your heart, forgive him, forgive yourself, and let him go.</i><br />
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<i>Let your intention be freedom from useless suffering. Then let go. </i><br />
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<i>When the past has passed from you at last, let go. Then climb down and begin the rest of your life with great joy. </i><br />
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I feel like a senior in high school, with graduation day just weeks away. I'm so ready for a known experience to end, and something new to begin. I want to accept my diploma for all that has been learned in the last three years. I want to forgive my orthodontist, and forgive myself for this experience. I want us to smile proudly, unencumbered, at one another, and mean it.<br />
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I was walking home from my friend Diana's house tonight, and I saw so many fireflies--the first of the season. They always cause me such delight. I looked up the symbolism of fireflies and it say that they are symbols of hope and inspiration. <i>"They are the promise of accomplishment through hope and efforts. They remind us that we have laid the appropriate groundwork and from it will spring great reward...For those to whom the firefly appears, it is time to trust in your own rhythms, physical and spiritual...Fireflies remind us that there are others who will respond to us and who are like us. They will make their presence known soon.</i><br />
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Yes indeed. Let there be light.<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #5b0303; font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Tahoma, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 2px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 2px; border-collapse: collapse; font-size: 12px;"><br style="min-width: 0px;" /></span></span>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-50941003652394405302012-05-19T22:42:00.001-04:002012-05-19T22:42:47.340-04:00There's No Such Thing As A Mistake, Part 2I came home after my appointment with the ortho on Tuesday to find that the elastic bands around my teeth had already come loose in two places. I was so angry about this that I almost punched a wall. How many times do I have to keep going back to that office to make sure that I'm getting the proper treatment that I should be receiving? I went late in the day, knowing that he would not be in the office.<br />
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I was greeted by one of the dental assistants, who I like very much. She's always been kind and we've chatted from time to time. She took one look and said to me, <i>"Honestly, does he think that patients are stupid? Or that they don't notice? I have patients coming in two and three times a month to fix wires and brackets and tubes. If he just took care of them properly the first time, those visits would be unnecessary. And if someone complains, he calls them crazy." </i>Or dead wood as the case may be.<br />
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Maybe I should have been surprised to hear her say this, but I wasn't. I think I know that my orthodontist has both empathy and behavior issues, and I figured that I wasn't the only one to be on the receiving end of this treatment. She spent a full 45 minutes fixing and redoing the metal tubes that he had installed so that they'd be secure. I asked her point blank, "<i>Really, really, how much time do you think I have left?"</i><br />
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She said that honestly, it was 2-3 months tops. This is in keeping with what he said on Tuesday, and quite frankly, all that I will tolerate. Two to three months will put us at three years exactly, and it is NOT going beyond that. I've decided, most emphatically, that this is over in July. The retainers will begin then, but all of the colossal--and painful--moving and shifting will end.<br />
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That said, I've started to experiment with being excited. I've been toyed with so much this year, that it has been hard to let myself be vulnerable enough to believe that this will actually end. But hearing it from her, a voice I can trust, in corroboration not only with him, but what I believe in my own heart has allowed me to begin to taste anticipation on the very tip of my tongue. Quite simply, I like how it feels, and how that feeling is growing in me each day. I am ready to end this fraught, disillusioned relationship with my ortho, and move on to something much more peaceful, clear, healthy and joyful.<br />
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And cast a spotlight on the unquestioningly bright smile that accompanies all of that.Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-36928525977987818082012-05-15T22:41:00.002-04:002012-05-15T22:41:19.707-04:00There's No Such Thing As a MistakeThe movie "Unfaithful" was on last weekend. I was really struck by the reasoning by Paul Martel when he says (in his fabulous French accent) <i>"There is no such thing as a mistake. There is what you do, and what you don't do."</i><br />
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The last time I went to the ortho, he was again pleased, and told me that we were really nearing the end. He put metal four new metal hooks inside my mouth and showed me how to essentially wire my jaw shut, which I was to do every night. This was painful, and a bit scary, but just as I started to get used to it, one of the hooks--and a bracket--popped off about a week later. I had a big press event, so I was unable to go to the ortho that week, and he went on vacation the next week. Not wanting to put myself in the hands of assistants and replacements, I waited to see him. The teeth were floating out there for almost 2 weeks and I felt them move every day. There was something strangely liberating about this--that my teeth, one by one, were rebelling against this process and taking <i>themselves</i> off.<br />
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I liked the idea of this. A lot.<br />
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Until today.<br />
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I saw the ortho and there was a new assistant at the office. He replaced the wire and she replaced the bracket, only to have it break off while she clumsily put new bands on top of it. He tried to again replace the bracket and had to admonish her that she was assisting him incorrectly. After being in the chair over 20 minutes, I started to feel my lips shaking. Once they had the bracket attached, he was about to have her finish, but this idea completely filled me with dread. I turned to him and said, "Can you finish me? I really need to get to work." For whatever reason, this started to make me shake even more, though he obligingly finished the job. I was shaking so much by the time I got to the receptionist that she asked me if I wanted to sit down for a bit. More than anything, I just wanted out of the office.<br />
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The teeth now feel out of whack where they fit together so nicely two weeks ago. And I have to wire them shut again on top of this. I am back to feeling weepy and angry and so definitively that this whole process was one big colossal mistake.<br />
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But I am reminded by Paul Martel that there is no such thing as a mistake. There is only what I did and didn't do.Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-63836775285902243082012-04-18T21:15:00.002-04:002012-04-19T22:13:15.662-04:00Why, Yes<span class="Apple-style-span" style=" -webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 5px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 5px; font-family:Arial, sans-serif;font-size:medium;"><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-family:'Times New Roman', serif;font-size:12pt;"><strong><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Theine by Mary Kinzie</span></span></strong><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"></span></span></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-family:'Times New Roman', serif;font-size:12pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">If compelled<br />to give it up<br />I would lift<br />as leaves do<br />loosened<br />from the tree<br />and feel the floating<br />thread of my thought<br />blown out<br />beyond itself<br /> line loose<br /> on the water<br />wandering<br />cinder<br />sleepier<br />than air</span></span></p></span>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-55779546448112945712012-04-09T22:18:00.001-04:002012-04-13T12:43:28.791-04:00How I Feel About Time...<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; -webkit-border-horizontal-spacing: 5px; -webkit-border-vertical-spacing: 5px; "><p style="font-weight: normal; margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; "><strong><span style="font-size: 9pt; ">A Rune, Interminable </span></strong><strong style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 13.5pt; "><span style="font-size: 9pt; ">by Marie Ponsot</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; "><span style="font-size: 9pt;"><span style="font-size: 9pt; "></span></span></p><p style="font-weight: normal; margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; "><span style="font-size: 9pt; ">Low above the moss<br />a sprig of scarlet berries<br />soon eaten or blackened<br />tells time.</span></p><p style="font-weight: normal; margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; "><span style="font-size: 9pt; "> Go to a wedding<br /> as to a funeral:<br /> bury the loss.</span></p><p style="font-weight: normal; margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; "><span style="font-size: 9pt; "> Go to a funeral<br /> as to a wedding:<br /> marry the loss.</span></p><p style="font-weight: normal; margin-right: 0in; margin-left: 0in; line-height: 13.5pt; font-size: 12pt; font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; "><span style="font-size: 9pt; "> Go to a coming<br /> as to a going:<br /> unhurrying.<br /><br /> Time is winter-green.<br /> Seeds keep time.<br /> Time, so kept, carries us<br /> across to no-time where<br /><br /> no time is lost.</span></p></span>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-66063071082824861222012-04-08T21:49:00.003-04:002012-04-09T22:18:33.519-04:00Angels in AmericaI had spent a long and lovely weekend celebrating Passover with my family, and on the way home from my brother's house, I stopped off at my mom's to visit with her for a while. My mom lives in a building with over 25 floors, with 10 apartments on each floor. This is the same building I grew up in , and as you can imagine we have a LOT of neighbors. One neighbor greeted us warmly in the elevator, a man I had not seen in years, but for whom I've always had affection. He's been kind to me since I was a small girl, and I was always beguiled by the fabled stories of his past--how he competed in the 1960 summer Olympics, held in Rome (he was a boxer) and though he never married, his popularity with the ladies. <div><br /></div><div>When we saw him in the elevator, I was struck at how he is still so handsome and when he smiled, I almost fell over to notice that he had <i>braces on his teeth</i>. When I pointed at them, and exclaimed, "<i>Look! Me too!"</i> He said, <i>"I'm 76 years old. Can you believe it?"</i> </div><div><br /></div><div>First and foremost I couldn't believe that he was 76! (He didn't look a day over 50.) But there was something about the braces on his teeth that made him even more appealing. Younger. Sweeter.</div><div><br /></div><div>I'm firmly convinced that seeing him was no accident, arranged by angels on this most holy weekend. And maybe, just maybe, could it be? That I am also more appealing, younger, and sweeter with braces?</div><div><br /></div><div>Hmmm.</div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-39586009931634586432012-03-29T21:50:00.008-04:002012-04-02T07:51:13.858-04:00Runnin' Up That Hill<div>It has been a long week. </div><div><br /></div><div>Things have seemed so off kilter with our 29 degree weather on Monday and our soon-to-be 70 degree weather. I find that I am angry at things that normally roll off my back. I'm waking up anxious, my mind racing a million miles an hour. The only solution, it seemed this morning, was to go for a run. I haven't done that in a long time--not since I hurt my knee. Despite the rain, it felt necessary. It's been my best antidote to an overabundance of any emotion, and the easiest way to disperse it. I think better when I run.</div><div><br /></div><div>The only people in the park were diehard runners and early morning dog walkers. I liked being among this "elite" group--the ones with true purpose, undeterred by cold and rain. I took a different route and chose to run up the hills as opposed to down them. </div><div><br /></div>I've been thinking a lot about choices. Choices of all kinds. The choice to stay or go. The choice to get braces. The choice to change perspective. The choice to challenge myself or sit on the couch. Paper or plastic. <div><br /></div><div>I love the line from <a href="http://www.pbs.org/wnet/gperf/episodes/sondheim-the-birthday-concert/performance-of-move-on/1044/">Sunday in the Park with George,</a> where Dot sings, <i>"The choice may have been mistaken, the choosing was not."</i><div><br /></div><div>I remind myself that where I am is product of many large, life changing choices. Some I question every day. Some I've made my peace with. There is comfort in knowing that the choosing is never a mistake. The choosing is what makes us alive. The choosing is the gas in the car, the rocket fuel, the nourishment for the body to run and jump and play. </div></div><div><br /></div><div>What are you choosing to do today?</div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-51134400864531320252012-03-01T21:57:00.007-05:002012-03-21T23:46:32.251-04:00Spring Has SprungI haven't written much lately, as you may have noticed. I've been under the weather for the last three weeks and was sleeping as much as possible to try and get well. Monday was the first day I actually felt like myself, and I wasn't completely overcome with exhaustion and sneezing. I'm celebrating my wellness with these pics of Spring in Central Park:<div><div><br /> <a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-vuMROwC9k2c/T2qQECf0zGI/AAAAAAAAAJw/iHDyrQjAuOY/s1600/spring%2Bflowers%2B4.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 244px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-vuMROwC9k2c/T2qQECf0zGI/AAAAAAAAAJw/iHDyrQjAuOY/s320/spring%2Bflowers%2B4.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5722544675591867490" /></a><br /><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-1AOLuvRoSpg/T2qP8y7ZwBI/AAAAAAAAAJk/l0y5t4BHIM0/s1600/spring%2Bflowers%2B3.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 244px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-1AOLuvRoSpg/T2qP8y7ZwBI/AAAAAAAAAJk/l0y5t4BHIM0/s320/spring%2Bflowers%2B3.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5722544551153483794" /></a><br /></div><div>Spring is a tough season. Everything feels like it's at sixes and sevens and this year I've been feeling downright dreamy. Perhaps it's because we really didn't have a winter coupled with the fact that it's going to be 80 degrees tomorrow that is allowing the forces that be to have their way with us. I find that I am overwhelmingly and irrationally upset at the things I know I cannot have. The view from my apartment on Chestnut Street in Binghamton. My grandmother's school ring from 1919, long ago lost. A conversation with a former boyfriend. </div><div><br /></div><div>I read this a few days ago:</div><div><br />"<i>A Course in Miracles</i> teaches 'Your passage through time and space is not at random. You cannot but be in the right place at the right time.' You are not lost. You are not abandoned. You can abandon yourself and feel abandoned. But you will always find your way-- when you find your way back to simply accepting yourself without judgment and following your natural desires. You have your desires for a reason. " --Tama Kieves</div><div><br /></div><div>I went to my orthodontist yesterday and he put on thicker wires ("fast wires" as he called them.) They hurt almost instantly. I asked him how much longer he thinks this will take and he said, "<i>We're really at the end here, maybe another month or two."</i> You'll forgive me if I don't believe him. He's said similar things before, and his sense of time is unreliable. Remember, we're now 7 months past the original date that was promised. </div><div><br /></div><div>I'm really very zen here. I've decided somewhere solid inside of me that they will be off by July. It's a worthy experiment to see if that becomes true. I just can't let this rule me anymore. I've said that before, but for the first time, I think I mean it. Maybe it's the dreamy nature of Spring, but something else has a hold on me.</div><div><br /></div><div>Dictionary.com's word of the day was "profluence" which means <i>"flowing smoothly or abundantly forth."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>Sounds like a good Springtime mantra to me.</div></div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-1562625369481271242012-02-22T21:51:00.006-05:002012-02-22T22:27:41.210-05:00Miami Medicine<div>My family planned a vacation to go down to Miami for the long President's Day weekend, and it was one fantastic time. My niece and nephew were incredible company on the flight down. It was 80 degrees when we deplaned. We were greeted with warm, chocolate chip cookies when we checked into our hotel. We zipped into our bathing suits and swam in the heated pool until the sun went down, all of us happy as clams. </div><div><br /></div><div>I was so surprised by how content I was, and how perfect it all felt. I told my mom that I've been really depressed--though trying really hard not to be--and it's the simple pleasures that change everything. Toes in the sand. My sister-in-law's cooking. My littlest niece saying my name for the first time. The giddiness I felt on the first day lasted for our entire trip, no matter what we did. </div><div><br /></div><div>Today, I read this <a href="http://www.tut.com/resources/notes/">Note from the Universe</a>:</div><div><br /></div><div><i>It may seem a bit backwards for some, but the first step one might take towards rearranging the present circumstances of their life is to stop dwelling upon the present circumstances of their life.</i></div><div><br /></div><div>Or to put it more succinctly, just choose to be happy. I've been trying to choose to be happy for a long time, and it was so maddeningly elusive. For whatever reason, it was found in North Miami Beach. I gathered it up, packed it in my suitcase and took it back with me up to Brooklyn.</div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:130%;color:#000066;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 15px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Georgia, serif;font-size:130%;color:#000000;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 16px;"><br /></span></span></span></span></div><div>On the way back from LaGuardia Airport, we were stuck in tremendous amounts of traffic, and though we were sitting still on the highway, our cab driver was playing great Haitian music which once again transported us back to a sunnier place, and I dare say even made even the traffic enjoyable. When I got out of the cab, I thanked him for the music. He popped the CD out of the player and said, "Keep it! I can get a new one, but you will not find this here. This is not from Port-au-Prince--this music is from the country. They call this <i>Campas</i>." </div><div><br /></div><div>I was so incredibly touched. The happy I packed in my suitcase got even bigger. And as I sit here writing, I'm still grooving to <a href="http://www.africasounds.com/orchestre_tropicana.htm">L'Orchestre Tropicana D'Haiti</a>. As they say in Haitian Creole, <i>Mesi mil fwa</i>, my friend!</div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-64837761105191318692012-02-07T22:43:00.003-05:002012-02-07T23:27:45.727-05:00Happy BirthdayIt was my birthday this past weekend and there was much revelry and celebration. There was a dinner party. There was champagne. There was Bo Ssam and the most delightful dumplings. There was a fantastic five layer <a href="http://blog.craftzine.com/ombre_cake.jpg">ombre cake </a>made by the equally fantastic Alicia. And as I sampled all of the delicacies, it was inevitable that I would pop off one of the brackets that was just put on a week and a half earlier. <div><br /></div><div>The loss of the bracket made the whole armature of my mouth sag, and it started to make me lisp. The braces were dragging on the corners of my mouth when I talked or smiled, and though I wanted to forget about it, I reminded myself that I am not dead wood, and anything alive gets the damn bracket fixed.<br /><div><br /></div><div>I went to my ortho today and I have to admit that I was nervous about it. Would he refuse to replace it as he had done in the past? Would I have to fight him on it, as I had done in the past? Every time I asked myself these questions, something in me was calmed, and a very secure sense of <i>"it's all going to be fine"</i> came over me. This does not happen often, but I've learned to recognize and trust this feeling when appears. I told myself that if he gave me any grief, I would just have to say, very simply, <i>"I need you to take care of me."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>Inside the doctor's office, he replaced the bracket. He was receptive and kind. He explained what he was doing with some of the other appliances in my mouth. I left his office feeling good. Giddy in fact. </div></div><div><br /></div><div>It's a 10-15 minute walk to the subway from the doctor's office, and a few steps from the subway entrance, I noticed that the bracket felt lower than my tooth. <i>"That's funny,"</i> I thought. So I pushed my tongue against it to find that the bracket has already popped off once again. Needless to say, I yelled more than a few expletives as I turned on my heel to hightail it back to the ortho's office. </div><div><br /></div><div>Once there, he was still nice, still calm, still receptive. He attended to the tooth in a way he hadn't before, added everything back, and I was on my way. And though I didn't have to articulate the words, the situation did it for me: <i>"I need you to take care of me. And I will keep coming back until you do."</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div>And so, somehow we've turned a corner. This makes me feel strangely hopeful where I have not these past six weeks. Truly it's all going to be fine. And that is the best birthday present of all. </div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-91873841737252782622012-02-06T20:20:00.005-05:002012-02-06T22:45:05.810-05:00Tilting The PrismI know I haven't written in a while, but I've been processing a lot. In fact, I'm damn tired of talking about my teeth. But to sum up, Doctor #2 took diagnostics and x-rays, and found bone loss and possible periodontal disease. The man who said he could treat me and make it livable, changed his tune, offered to charge me close to $9,000 to treat me for six months and advised me to go back to my regular orthodontist so that he could "finish the job." He, in fact, called my ortho to "tell him what to do." The fact that this sounds like dialogue from a <i>Godfather</i> movie is not lost on me.<div><br /></div><div>I went back to my regular ortho two weeks ago and in fact he was calmer, slower and answered my questions. I didn't like his answers some of the time, but he did answer. He replaced three brackets that were missing, and though I still feel disappointed in him, this seems to be the path that I'm following right now. </div><div><br /></div><div>I'm thinking a lot about the phrase "dead wood." It's not something that you hear in New York City. We don't worry about things like firewood, and how alive it might be. I've been pushing that word away from me out of indignation. Out of the fact that the word is truly adding insult to injury. And yet if I am to be fair, he's not so wrong. I have been acting like dead wood. I've been sequestering myself. I've been suffering. I've been quiet. I've been single. </div><div><br /></div><div>But now, I'm taking the prism and tilting it in my hand. Could it be that he did me a favor by pointing this out? After some processing, the whole "dead wood" thing might have served a purpose to shake me out of complacency. Every time I think about the phrase it's replaced by a stronger, impassioned determination to prove how un-dead-wood-like I am. </div><div><br /></div><div>My friend Cory sent me this poem, and what a gift it is. This has also tiled the prism, and shed light where light was not before. </div><div><br />WAITING</div><div>by John Burroughs (1837-1921)</div><div><br /><i>Serene, I fold my hands and wait,</i></div><div><i>Nor care for wind, nor tide, nor sea;</i></div><div><i>I rave no more 'gainst time or fate,</i></div><div><i>For, lo! my own shall come to me.</i></div><div><i><br />I stay my haste, I make delays,</i></div><div><i>For what avails this eager pace?</i></div><div><i>I stand amid the eternal ways,</i></div><div><i>And what is mine shall know my face.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>Asleep, awake, by night or day;</i></div><div><i>The friends I seek are seeking me;</i></div><div><i>No wind can drive my bark astray,</i></div><div><i>Nor change the tide of destiny.</i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>What matter if I stand alone?</i></div><div><i>I wait with joy the coming years;</i></div><div><i>My heart shall reap where it hath sown,</i></div><div><i>And garner up its fruit of tears.</i></div><div><i><br />The waters know their own and draw</i></div><div><i>The brook that springs in yonder height;</i></div><div><i>So flows the good with equal law</i></div><div><i>Unto the soul of pure delight.</i></div><div><i><br />The stars come nightly to the sky;</i></div><div><i>The tidal wave unto the sea;</i></div><div><i>Nor time, nor space, nor deep, nor high,</i></div><div><i>Can keep my own away from me.</i></div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-34050951493255541252012-01-17T22:06:00.005-05:002012-01-17T22:25:22.157-05:00Pain vs. Suffering<i>"Pain is necessary. Suffering is not"</i>--Todd Norian<div><br /></div><div>A few weeks ago I went on a yoga retreat with the wonderful <a href="http://www.deeppeaceyoga.com/">Todd Norian</a>, which was a phenomenal experience. Yoga for seven hours a day, including morning meditation at 6:30 am each day. I saw the sun rise and spread its rosy fingers across the Berkshires sky. I felt better and healthier than I have in years. </div><div><br /></div><div>I've been holding the above phrase close to me, and in light of recent events, I am holding it even closer. Pain tells the brain that something is wrong, and a change must happen. Pain tells you that you better take your hand out of the fire. Pain tells you that where you are now, is not where you need to be. Pain is reflexive, instinctive, and yes, necessary for survival.</div><div><br /></div><div>Suffering, on the other hand, is a choice. Suffering is a mindset, a dark cloak that one puts on and wears as a fashion statement. It's also a garment that's hard to take off. </div><div><br /></div><div>Pain forces you to be in action, suffering keeps you where you are. </div><div><br /></div><div>It seems like such a simple distinction, a slight shift, but one that has really been of benefit to me. I'm not interested in suffering anymore. I'm interested in fixing things. I'm interested in looking on the bright side. I'm interested in wearing pink. I'm interested in raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens. (Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens, too.) Quite frankly, I'm interested in smiling. </div><div><br /></div><div>Fancy that.</div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-68699213627142894772012-01-16T10:04:00.007-05:002012-01-16T12:22:56.103-05:00Ch-Ch-Ch-ChoicesIn a rather challenging yoga class on Saturday, my instructor told us to do one last asana of our choice. <i>"Put your legs up the wall, do a bridge or a wheel, do a final headstand," </i>she offered. <i>"There is no good choice or bad choice, it's just a choice."</i><div><br /></div><div>I love that she said that. </div><div><br /></div><div>From my last posting, you can see that I have a choice to make, and I have been worried about making a good choice. Returning to my present ortho is a choice, but one that makes my stomach turn. Going to the doctor who thinks expensive surgery is my best bet is also a choice, as is seeing doctor #2. Visiting more doctors for more opinions is also a choice. Any of them could be right, and any of them could be wrong. </div><div><br /></div><div>The great irony here is that I've been getting lots of compliments lately about how good my teeth look, just as I've lost my faith in orthodontia. I feel like I did in 1993, when, after being sick with the Bejing flu, which caused me to lose 30 pounds in six weeks, I was told how fabulous I looked. It brings up that age old "do the ends justify the means" question.</div><div><br /></div><div>The only real answer is that something has to change. And only a choice can bring that change into action. It's very Yoda, isn't it? <i>Do, or do not. There is no try.</i></div><div><br /></div><div>Ah, the force. </div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-45549004210099455752012-01-11T22:49:00.006-05:002012-01-15T22:28:32.121-05:00The DillyAs you've noticed, I have not blogged in some time. A lot has happened and I really did not want to talk about it. But perhaps now is the time.<div><br /></div><div>In December, I went to my ortho to have my braces tightened. I pointed out to him that my back three teeth on the lower left side were all torqued where they had been fine two months earlier. This was largely due to the fact that a bracket on one of the back teeth had broken off over a year ago and despite many requests to have it replaced, he refused. He told me that the torquing was "fine." When I told him that it most certainly was not fine, he put the bracket back on, but only because I protested. This, among other similar incidences of late have made me increasingly more uncomfortable with his care. </div><div><br /></div><div>I tried to get an answer out of him as to the status of my treatment, and where it was going. I have tried for some time to get this information but as usual he only gave me vague answers, pointing once again to the back molar that we're waiting to turn 90 degrees. Since month 16 (when he noticed that molar, mind you) this is the only concrete information that he's given me about my treatment. </div><div><br /></div><div>I spent a sleepless and angry weekend after that tightening, upset that I have no idea what's going on. I made an appointment on Monday to speak to my doctor--simply talk, without any distractions to find out what's going on. In the privacy of his back room, which I haven't seen in two and a half years since this all started, I asked him calmly, <i>"I'd really like to know the prognosis from this moment forward, and how long you anticipate that my treatment will take."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>Well.</div><div><br /></div><div>He raised his voice at me, pointing to the fact that he <i>"sees 95 patients a day, and if any of them go beyond their time, it doesn't work for my business model. It only makes sense if you keep to your time or less. You are all paid up and I can't sustain an office with patients that are all paid up. You are useless to me. Do you know what we call patients like you? We call them dead wood."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>He went on for some 10 minutes, and despite my exclamations punctuating his more inflammatory statements (I was also told that I'm bad PR for his office as I'll tell all my friends that my doctor can't keep to the time that's promised), he never stopped his tirade and made it clear that this was not a dialogue. </div><div><br /></div><div>In the moment, I tried to be as placating and reasonable as possible, because I figured that I still needed him to do work. I tried to find real solutions that he shot down everytime. ("<i>No, you can't come more often.</i>") At the end of this discussion, I still had no answers as to where my treatment was, or how much longer it would take. </div><div><br /></div><div>This started a whole month of angry sleeplessness, waking up panicked at 5am every morning. Panic is not a usual state for me--the last time I had this kind of prolonged panic was in 1995. In addition to the panic, my jaw, teeth and even skull were hurting tremendously. I could no longer trust my doctor, and certainly could not go back to him. I felt betrayed, diminished and, quite frankly, scared. </div><div><br /></div><div>Two lovely guardian angels came to my rescue. My friend Dana, whose father is a dentist did a huge amount of research to find me an appropriate orthodontist who I could trust in the city to get a second opinion, and a wonderful coworker who also wore braces as an adult a few years ago. When I told her what had happened with my doctor, her eyes went black with rage. She referred her orthodontist--and I must say she has gorgeous teeth.</div><div><br /></div><div>I saw both these orthodontists on Thursday, which exhausted me. At 8am in the morning I met with a very posh Park Avenue orthodontist who had a very sleek and high tech office. Lovely people. I told him what had happened with my present orthodontist (bursting into tears as I told the story) and he apologized <i>"on behalf of the profession"</i> for the way my orthodontist treated me. After a surprisingly thorough examination, he gave me three options: 1) surgery 2) widening space in my mouth and inserting four implants, and 3) torquing my roots so that they are straight instead of pointing backwards. He said that treatment would probably be another two years. </div><div><br /></div><div>I did not like any of these options.</div><div><br /></div><div>I went to orthodontist #2 who I liked immediately. Though he gave me a surprisingly short examination he seemed to understand where I'm coming from. He also said that surgery is an option, but <i>"one that I'm sure you don't want to do."</i> I assured him that he was right. He told me that my teeth are far from perfect, but that we can make them livable--and that it would take about a year. At this rate, I just want to chew. I want my teeth to fit right together and to stop making my skull hurt. He seemed genuinely concerned about me, which shockingly, is a very new feeling to me with regard to these braces. </div><div><br /></div><div>I have found all of this incredibly draining and extremely upsetting. I've cried more this week than I can remember in recent memory. </div><div><br /></div><div>So, this is where we are. I'm having new diagnostics taken in a few days so that I can figure out what my next step should be. </div><div><br /></div><div>Let's just say, this piece of dead wood is on fire.</div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-59442296464280819232011-12-17T20:58:00.010-05:002011-12-19T21:09:11.410-05:00Space and Time<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">"</span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Wherever we are, it is but a stage on the way to somewhere else, and whatever we do, however well we do it, it is only a preparation to do something else that will be different." </span></span></i><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">--Robert Louis Stevenson</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">I went to the orthodontist on Friday. I don't want to talk about it. Let's just say this is going to take forever. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Perhaps this is one of the reasons why I've been turning my eye to the past this week, and to times when I've felt myself to be brighter, deeper, more in focus. I'm taking out these moments, and turning them over in my mind as thought they were glittery jewels. I'm delighted by them. I'm also tortured by them.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">I went to a party on Friday night at </span></span><a href="http://gowanusballroom.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">The Gowanus Ballroom </span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"> In the cavernous industrial space, <a href="http://www.morganokanemusic.com/">Morgan O'Kane</a> played extraordinary banjo mountain music </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">as aerialists performed feats of elegant strength 20 feet above. We walked among the huge art installations and lazed within in an enormous iron replica of Genie's bottle. The floor shook with fantastic, frenzied dancing, and I was transported back to 1995 when art and bluegrass and frenzied dancing were weekly occurrences. It felt odd but so satisfying to reinhabit that time and place. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">I read this today at from <a href="http://www.blogger.com/www.tut.com">Adventurer's Club</a>:</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><i>While it's often fashionable to dwell upon what might have been, what's usually overlooked is that really and truly, it couldn't have.<br /><br />Because, invariably, any romanticized versions of how things "might have been," are based upon fictionalized versions of the past.</i> </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000066;"><br /></span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">This is such a useful quote. Those moments, no matter how pretty and significant, were merely stepping stones to this one, as this one will merely be a stepping stone to 2012 and beyond. Whatever has happened stays static in the past, though alive and beautiful in memory. As one of my professors said in class in 1995, quoting EM Forester, "In space things meet, in time things part."</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">What is meeting in the space I am in right now? My teeth are beginning to meet each other in the right places. I've been meeting my yoga practice everyday, faithfully, for two weeks now. And I'm soon to meet a new year and everything that it may hold. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Very curious about the glittery jewels to be found there...</span></span></div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-81715850931850074252011-12-07T21:18:00.003-05:002011-12-07T22:46:33.748-05:00Hello<i>“Quietly go to work on your own self-awareness. If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in the world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself. Truly, the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self-transformation." </i>--Lao Tsu, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Hua-Hu-Ching-Teachings-Lao/dp/0060692456">Hua Hu Ching</a><div><br /></div><div>Well dang. If that's the case, having braces is something near to angelic, and instead of brushing my teeth I should be shining my halo. I'm being facetious here because I'm not feeling anywhere near the seraphim lately. I start off on a good path and then find myself taking the easy road, when taking the more involved road is tiring but more satisfying. This is getting proven to me time and time again, in small ways, and yet I still insist on having that free bagel when it's offered, that extra cup of coffee with cream, and tell myself "manana, manana" when I think about my yoga practice or running in the park. My body is so soft, my anger is so easily roused, and the zen that I once prized in myself is seeping out of me. The shameful part is that I've willingly let it happen. I have blamed the braces, but that's also the easy road. It's not these bits of metal in my mouth, it's something else.</div><div><br /></div><div>I want to catch myself like <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Catcher-Rye-J-D-Salinger/dp/0316769487">Holden Caufield catching little ones in the rye</a>, and eliminate all that is dark and negative in myself. It's done with ample sleep and green vegetables, and yoga. It's done with dance parties and exotic travel and moments of silence. I have not done any of these things in a long time. </div><div><br /></div><div>I found myself trying to make friends with my teeth last night. I was consciously thanking each tooth for all of the incredibly hard work each molar, each canine has done over the last two and a quarter years. I actually felt each tooth throb in each root as if to say, <i>"You talkin' to us? Fo' reals? It's about damn time you said hello!" </i></div><div><br /></div><div>Perhaps that's all it takes for the real transformation to begin... </div><div><br /></div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-28074747142935097092011-11-06T20:00:00.002-05:002011-11-06T20:04:19.324-05:00Quote of the DayOver brunch with Brad and Nina (after a full morning of cheering on NY City marathoners) Nina asked, <i>"When do the braces come off?"</i> I answered with a casual, <i>"Who knows?" </i> Her reply, an indignant, <i>"Forget Occupy Wall Street, it's time for Occupy Orthodontist!"</i> was the sweetest thing anyone's ever said to me.Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-30305861616645151382011-11-03T22:36:00.010-04:002011-11-05T19:40:27.840-04:00Hidden Treasure26 months.<div><br /></div><div>I've been to the orthodontist three times in the last two weeks. Let's just say I had to go back twice to have him fix his errors, and that the subsequent pain was so intense, I went back and made him figure out how to fix THAT. He has now introduced me into the world of "orthodontic elastics" aka rubber bands, connecting my upper left molar to my lower left canine in an effort to move my whole lower jaw over to the left to properly align the teeth. The great irony here is that the pulling has actually made my teeth feel better. </div><div><br /></div><div><a href="http://newyork.timeout.com/music-nightlife/comedy/2165719/joke-of-the-week-robbie-collier">Time Out New York's Joke of the Week</a> is this:</div><div><br /></div><div><i>Lil Wayne told the women on <a href="http://theview.abc.go.com/">The View</a> that his diamond and platinum grill was actually </i>"his form of braces."<i> I'd love to meet the orthodontist who looked in his mouth and thought, Hey you know what might fix this overbite? Treasure.</i> </div><div><br /></div><div>Though <a href="http://www.rooftopcomedy.com/comics/RobbieCollier">Robbie Collier</a> meant this to be funny, I can't stop thinking about it. I love the idea of slightly hidden treasure--when the mouth is closed, no one can see it, and the mouth is open, <i>Abracadabra</i>! Jewels! I'm starting to view my own mouth in this way, as I can finally start seeing the fruit of all of this 26 months of labor.</div><div><br /></div><div>In yoga class yesterday, our teacher introduced the concept of s<i>antosha</i> which is broadly defined as contentment, but in the context of not needing more than you have to achieve contentment. He challenged us to find the ways that one can feel content moving within and in harmony with one's circumstances, even if they are difficult, whether it be a complicated yoga pose or life situation. I feel like I'm moving into a new phase of all of this, a certain <i>santosha</i>, that no matter what gets thrown at me (including rubber bands moving my jaw diagonally across my face) it doesn't seem to cow me the way it used to. I am simply looking it in the eye a and letting it look back. As Joseph Campbell said, <i>"It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>Lil Wayne and I may disagree on exactly the nature of that treasure, but for now, I've made my peace. I'm in a state of <i>santosha</i>. Whenever anyone asks me how much longer the braces will stay on, I answer with <i>"Who knows?"</i> I told a friend I'm getting very AA about it, just <i>"letting go, and letting God." </i>It's up to the universe to decide, and I'm not fighting it anymore. I'm looking it in the eye. I'm inviting it to tea, and offering scones.</div><div><br /></div><div> (And adding perhaps a bit of rum to that tea is treasure indeed.)</div><div><br /></div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-73638281937926153692011-09-28T23:05:00.001-04:002011-09-28T23:09:11.004-04:00Perspective"Be patient with the process, and with yourself, okay?<br />It’s going to take some time.<br />That’s not a problem; it’s the point."<div><br />~Bernadette Birney's insightful <a href="http://bernadettebirney.com/2011/09/dear-certification-candidate.html">blog</a> on the Anusara Yoga certification process</div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-40491264616143198812011-09-20T20:30:00.006-04:002011-09-26T21:18:19.494-04:002525 months. We are officially over two years.<div><br /></div><div>Dang.</div><div><br /></div><div>The ortho was once again frustrated at how slowly that back molar is moving (as am I). I imagine he thought he was being reassuring when he said that "Cosmetically your teeth are straightened and done. It's just your bite that needs work." The only problem is that I never went into this process wanting cosmetic changes. They were a nice side effect, but it's the correctness of the bite that was always my first priority. He put a stronger wire on my <i>bottom</i> teeth this time in an effort to <i>"move your molars in and underneath your top teeth." </i>Do they hurt? Um, yeah.</div><div><br /></div><div>He said that the outermost limit that these braces will still be on will be six months, but I'm not counting my chickens before they hatch. I suppose I should pluck up courage at the fact that he has never been definitive about time before, and that he has given me a true timeframe. But it's little consolation when I cannot feel true faith in his estimations. I still feel just as shackled by these braces as I did over two years ago.</div><div><br /></div><div>And yet. I was getting off an elevator today, and as I left the man in the elevator said, "Thank you for your big smile, " and then as he left, he turned and cut me a look, and in a surprisingly flirty way exclaimed, "Showoff!"</div><div><br /></div><div>Universe, you make me laugh!</div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-40211962169256567282011-09-20T00:01:00.004-04:002011-09-21T22:00:50.743-04:0020/20It was my 20th high school reunion this weekend.<div><br /></div><div>I will admit, that I did not want to go. There were over 600 people in my graduating class, and I didn't know half of them in high school, let alone trying to remember them 20 years later. I recognized few of the 175 names on the RSVP list. My friend Natalie was anxious to go, but I tarried sending in my check. I <i>was</i> curious, and I thought I might regret it if I didn't go. I'm trying to say more yeses than no's these days.</div><div><br /></div><div>Natalie looked gorgeous, as she always does, but I was full of apprehension as we approached the door of the venue. The first person we ran into was our class president, who took one look at me and said, "My god, you look exactly the same...but <i>better</i>." That, my friends, was the right answer. </div><div><br /></div><div>Now, there were plenty of people there I didn't know, and a few awkward moments. There were conversations that petered out almost as quickly as they started, but the ones that lasted were tangibly warm, as though I could literally see the lines of connection strong between us. We all marveled at how good everyone looked. There were no stereotypical paunchy, bald men, and the women were svelte and pretty. Indeed, for the most part, we all looked the same...but <i>better</i>. We reminisced, we cooed at baby pictures of children, we grieved for those of us who are ill, or no longer with us.</div><div><br /></div><div>Afterwards, there was an outpouring on Facebook from attendees who were so delighted, moved, and fulfilled by the evening. I am loath to admit that this had me confused. I had a nice time, but my heart was not filled or emptied, my soul was not aroused or impassioned. I enjoyed the evening as I would enjoy a nice meal or a good day at work. Fine, but not life changing. I couldn't help but wonder if I had a hardened heart, or why my normally sentimental self was feeling anything but. </div><div><br /></div><div>And then it hit me--during the course of the evening, I was told more than once how happy I seemed. If I am to be honest, I truly am happy. I didn't need a nostalgic trip to make me feel <i>something</i> palpable when my life right now is already wholly lived. This 20 year reunion coincided with a reunion with friends met in Morocco who happened to be in New York, and that evening was more full, alive, vibrant and soul touching to me. The past can stay in the past, my peace is with it and I wish it, as well as my 18 year old self, well. My 38 year old self, on the other hand, is proudly, proudly living out loud. </div><div><br /></div><div>They say that hindsight is 20/20, but I am amazed and rather tickled to realize that my eyes see everything in this moment, crystal clear. Anais Nin said, <i>"We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are."</i> Yes, oh yes, we do. </div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6981859418226093474.post-9019495160394415902011-09-11T22:54:00.004-04:002011-09-11T23:44:14.862-04:00Time MachinesIt's a sad day.<div><br /></div><div>I have been trying to avoid any TV news reports today--it's just too much to deal with all of this nonstop coverage of 9/11. That day is still very much a part of me, as it has been whether we celebrate a one, two or ten year anniversary. Most of my friends here in NYC feel much the same way--that this arbitrary date doesn't make it any more important or any less awful. I cannot look at footage of that day without tearing up, and have spent the better portion of today getting irrationally weepy at movies like <i>Becoming Jane, Original Sin</i> and <i>Miss Congeniality</i> (yes, I've had TBS on all day), as well as getting insanely furious at IKEA when they didn't have the items that I had come to purchase. I decided to get industrious and clean out my closet, and finding my father's sweater in there put me over the edge once again. The sadness seems to be in the air, easily plucked and accessible, and the cold air and gloomy clouds fit the somber mood of the day.</div><div><br /></div><div>I had spent the night before at a secret party in some warehouse space somewhere in Brooklyn, themed to 1930s Morocco. There were elegant flapper dresses paired with bobbed hair, djellabas, kaftans and turbans galore. (I wore the hot pink and silver djellaba I purchased in Tangier in June.) There were belly dancers and live musicians, tarot readers and henna tattoo artists. We danced and danced and it was so delightful to be truly transported to another date and time, far away from <i>this</i> time, and <i>this</i> place. I realize that only the best, the prettiest and the most exciting and delightful parts of the 30s were celebrated last night, but all history is in some way revisionist, and it is those who triumph who decide which parts endure. </div><div><br /></div><div>I want to honor my friend Melanie who volunteered at the medical examiner's office 10 years ago. I want to honor my brother and sister-in-law who housed me for a full week after the towers fell. I want to honor all of us who fled to the hospitals to give blood. I want to send love to all the souls that were scared and lost on that day. I want to remember that my father was still alive 10 years ago. I want to thank whoever designed the Towers of Light that stand each year where the towers used to be, and how comforting I always find this tribute. </div><div><a href="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2525/3910914329_451f8c7ff6.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 500px; height: 333px;" src="http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2525/3910914329_451f8c7ff6.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a><br /></div><div>I love this quote by Albert Einstein. I'll leave you with it:</div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">"</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; line-height: 18px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to a divine purpose. From the </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; line-height: 18px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know: That we are here for the sake of others...for the countless unknown souls with whose fate we </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; line-height: 18px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">are connected by a bond of sympathy. Many times a day, I realize how much my outer and inner life is built upon the labors of people, both living and dead, </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana; line-height: 18px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;">and how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have received."</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:Verdana;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px; font-size: small;"><br /></span></span></div>Bionic Grinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461548259183589090noreply@blogger.com1